crimetraveller (time travelling criminal) @wenom@lesbian.solutions

🌻 ⁠–––– [ About ]

Hello there! You might know me as wen or wenom, but I'm Fennel⁠—or Fenn!⁠—and my pronouns are they/them or he/him (though anything but she/her or it/its is okay!).

I'm 21 years old and was born and presently live in Scotland, I am white and a tme nonbinary lesbian.

🖊️ ⁠–––– [ Interests ]

I like playing video games, but especially hidden role games with my friends, and I'm interested in comics–though I'm not super hardcore into either!

I enjoy a lot of creative hobbies like writing and drawing, anything where I can create with my hands is something I'm willing to try. At the moment I'm most interested in clay and watercolour but digital is my most common medium (you can actually find me @wisterialust if you'd like).

I've been trying to get into reading, you can see what I'm reading atm here: https://lesbian.solutions/@wenom/104908969041930172

🐜 –––– [ Hyperfixations ]

My current hyperfixations are: Among Us, Plants, Tarot & Bugs.

Disclaimer: I am not officially diagnosed with ADHD but that is because diagnosis is near impossible on the NHS, if I don't have ADHD, it's likely I have something very similar.

🌵 –––– [ Boundaries ]

I have a history of being ineffectual at asserting my boundaries, but I am going to take a hard stance from now on. If you ignore my boundaries that's a block.

Please read my boundaries here: https://lesbian.solutions/@wenom/104762359601623905

I have memory issues; so I may not cover everything in this initial post, please check the replies in case I have added anything that is important.

I am not comfortable with gestures of physical affection, even if we know each other pretty well, unless I am specifically asking for them.

Please don't flirt with me or be sexual towards me in a serious way and out of nowhere, I struggle with social cues and have trauma I'd rather not rehash to justify my discomfort, I am not interested in an internet relationship, sorry. Also men should NEVER flirt with me or be sexual towards me.

Flirting in a joking way, or being sexual in a joking way (so long as the conversation was already sexual) is okay, just use discretion and common sense.

If you have any questions lemme know and I'll try to clarify!

i get nervous complimenting people, especially people i don't know well (im scared of accidentally complimenting them in a creepy way), so just know that if i boost/fav yr selfie then i think you are cute/pretty/handsome/cool as heck/whichever descriptor makes you happiest!

2 things u gotta know about me? I'm a big fat dyke!!! and I would literally die for my niece if she needed me to!!

thinking of inventing a bunch of fake lesbian stereotypes just to see what happens

I don't have to be, and actively refuse to be, consumable to an audience besides myself.

If thin people think I'm ugly because I'm fat; if cis people think I'm ugly because I don't "pass"; if straight people think I'm ugly because I'm too queer; I DON'T FUCKING CARE!

I love me! I love the way I look! And, that's enough for me!

i love when my friends make me feel stupid when i don't understand them <3 /j

thinking about the myth that women automatically hate each other and how it was definitely men who created and spread it meanwhile every woman i know absolutely loves women and wants to uplift each other

:( i was rly excited abt the diamond/pearl remakes but my friend kept telling me it looks bad and they hate it which immediately knocked the wind it of me

i am allowed to enjoy things even if other people don't

the tropes are noir PI entangled with a femme fatale, emphasis on the fatale

and mob boss and her gf who the mob boss would do anything to protect, the gf in this scenario is a doctor (medtechie)

my friend and i both made lesbians independently of eachother who honestly are very tropey and have a lot of genre overlap and its VERY funny to me

queers see a trope/overdone genre and go "hmm... that's fine... but what if.... queer?"

on the plus side im going to queer the fuck out of this cyberpunk world and there's nothing he can do about it uwu

getting into a ttrpg with a cishet nerd is like poking a wasps nest lol

im sure this guy is nice but it remains to be seen... (i just dont wanna be misgendered)

my friend blocked me on twitter? and, i dont know why? im so confused? i dont know what i could have done?

i want to ask her but i also dont want to bother her ? like she clearly has her reasons, but she could have just asked me to unfollow if she didn't want me to follow her?

im really confused, and sad? i know its just twitter? but... i just dont understand and i am scared i've done something shitty

thing's have been weird recently, dunno how to articulate it, just... weird

i think that the response of "adoption is okay" to someone talking about fears regarding fertility is... bad

so, firstly, as a queer person who feels like they have little agency over their own body at times due to disability, that response feels so... alientating? idk, like i know the people saying this to me are also often queer disabled people

but it feels like they're offering it as a "back up" plan, meanwhile i wasn't talking about it as if it was a problem that needed solving, just an expression of fear.

adoption is beautiful and a route i hope to have the option of seriously considering one day

but i dont thing its wrong or bad to also talk about wanting to conceive and give birth; i think its healthy and normal to talk about, even if its not a choice you decide to undertake, right?

i want to be a mother, ever since i was a child i wanted to give birth, i wanted that and i still do - i think it is beautiful and i think it is incredible and i think it is unfair to treat adoption as a back up plan.

i just want to cry and cry

not going to go into detail but i think i may need to go to the doctor and have a physical exam done and the idea of being touched makes me want to vomit

its possibly a serious problem but i would rather keep dealing with the pain than be touched